Comments on: How do you deal with a jealous friend?

By: Sha'narra

Sha'narra — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:15:59 +0000

The Persians have a saying about your "friends" behavior. It’s called ‘touching the tiger’, which means she is only brave enough to poke the tiger with a stick while the tiger is in its cage. Your ‘friend’ is showing he insecurity and low self-esteem, and using you to put down so she will feel ‘better’ about herself. It’s sad, to see her do this and hen start dressing like you. The dichotomy she is displaying is disturbing, to say the least. To be puting you down in front of others is bad enough, but dressign like you…that’s really disturbing. I don’t have a degree in psych, but from wha you ae describing, I would have to say she had a borderline personality disorder, probable personality dependancy (your personality is what she has chosen), and likely depression, if not being bi-polar. Now for the hard part. You are going to have to make a very hard decision, knowing ahead of time that no matter the outcome, you will probably lose her as a friend. You are going to have to speak to the appropriate person on campus thathandle medical/psychological problems, and get help for her. She is on a self-destrucive spiral path. SInce you asked what you should do, I know that you care about her welfare. Call on that strength, and do what you feel is the right thing to do. Your ‘friend’ is lucky to have someone like you to help her. Good luck.
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By: Alexa M

Alexa M — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 10:29:59 +0000

you might want to talk to her about it. The things she said was very rude and uncalled for. IF she REALLY was your friend, she would support you, not put you down.
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By: Ranger3

Ranger3 — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 09:46:59 +0000

Ask her what is the deal? You have to confront it!Tell her your starting to fell uncomfortable around her because she has been negative. Give the examples you gave to us. Tell her that that is not being a good friend and that you don't deserve to be treated like that. You must give the examples.! Usually, when a person does that they have self esteem issues but they have a hard time admitting it. So that is why the examples are needed. It will get worse! She doesn't like herself and Asians are not depicted in American Society as being beautiful. That is how the American media is. If your not a certain look you not "in" So. tell her she is a great person and she is beautiful and she should be proud on herself but that behavior is nothing to be proud of.
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By: The Astute Anglophile

The Astute Anglophile — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 09:09:59 +0000

Why are you still her friend? She's a hater drop her like backpack.
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