Comments on: Am I vain because I don’t settle for certain girls?

By: Lee

Lee — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 19:04:59 +0000

ironic? I can relate alot to your situation and I do feel that I may be vain sometimes. Also all the good girls do seem to ALWAYS have a boyfriend. In my opinion you should just keep doing what your doing, don't change for anyone and wait for that girl who will be the one.
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By: bestadvicechick

bestadvicechick — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 18:50:59 +0000

No, you don’t come off as vain in my opinion at all! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having an IDEA of the qualities you want in a person so long as you keep that as a loose idea. Life is funny. Sometimes people come into your life that you might never expect to connect with but that, if you’re open to it, you might be surprised. Don’t let your ideas of what you want box you into ONLY being aware of one type of person. If you do that, you might miss out on someone who is amazing. The physical aspect is something you really can’t help. People are attracted to different types for different reasons. Some men like brunettes and that’s what they tend to date. That’s fine. Preferences are fine. But like I said, just be open to life’s possibilities.

To me, it sounds like you’re focusing way too hard on this. College is a time of self-discovery and having fun. Don’t weigh yourself down trying to analyze things so much. You’re attracted to what you’re attracted to period – don’t apologize for your taste in women! I will say this: keep in mind that a woman isn’t a balance sheet. It’s great to have a mental list of the qualities you want. But sit down & think about what the characteristics are that are real deal-breakers. For instance, for me, being a person of integrity & character is non-negotiable. I want to be with a man that I know will be honest & behave like a gentleman no matter if I’m watching or not. I happened to have married someone like that! You need to decide what YOUR non-negotiables are and no, it shouldnt’ be hair color!

My main advice to you sweetie is just to be open to whatever life puts in your path. At the end of the day, every experience helps teach us something….even the negative experiences. So don’t sweat it.
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By: Cirque Du Freak

Cirque Du Freak — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 18:12:59 +0000

hmmm… well first of all let me just say don’t go for JUST looks, cause yes looks are important to an extent.. but sometimes those funny, goofy, smart, and sweet girls are the ones that aren’t all that good of a looker.. but they are awesome to hang with.. hmm… this is a toughy.. i’d suggest giving every single girl you come accross a chance cause you never know what can come of it… cause i’m a girly that’s a nerd (i play video games, read, and paint) but by society standards i’m "hot" and i honestly don’t care bout that so i give every guy a chance to get to know me… and the best bf’s i’ve had were the geeky kids that were soooo much fun to hang with!!!! good luck!! do let me know how it goes k
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AthADW9gH3nfOlAJHxhTNNDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081217125040AAOpkQA

this q is in singles and dating as well

By: ScSpec

ScSpec — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:41:59 +0000

You need to re-evaluate your goals and what is most desirable in a girl friend. The best relationships are not necessarily those with the prettiest girls, there are other things to think about. There are many average looking people with great personalities. It is understandable that you would like girls with similar interests, but just stop looking for perfection.
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By: Marina ☮

Marina ☮ — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:04:59 +0000

eh i mean i dont know you so im not gonna judge but theres a fine line between being vain and not settling for less than you think you’re worth. its fine to think your attractive…actually if you didnt think you were then that would obviously signal some kind of self essteeem issue. it is kind of high that you want someone who is similar to carrie underwood. instead of saying oh i want someone like this or that say that you want someone who is this (funny smart funny good looking IN YOUR EYES etc) if you honestly want your perfect girl you cant just sit and wait around for her…you’ll never get anything in life by sitting around and waiting. yes go out and search. its okay to expand your horizons besides the drama crowd. and last. dont just wanna find a girl for the sake of loosing your virginity. that is something really special that you wanna loose to someone that you really love and care about. hope this helps
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By: Toopy Flannigan

Toopy Flannigan — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 16:44:59 +0000

No. I never dated anyone until I found the perfect guy. I was asked out and people tried to set me up, but I always knew I'd find the perfect guy for me and I would know it when he came along. We have been married 11 years have 3 kids and are the best of friends to this day. We never grew bored of each other and everyone who knows us can see how in love we truly are. Never settle for someone you feel isn't right. It is ok to wait until you find her!
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By: rpetch007

rpetch007 — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 15:59:59 +0000

if your lucky one of the ones you knock back could help you get the first base over with if you know what i mean.. then ..you need a realty check mate .. as the looks of some one dont matter it the person .. ...
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By: AngelMare

AngelMare — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 15:36:59 +0000

Keep looking; you'll find what you're looking for sometime somewhere.
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By: Juliet R

Juliet R — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 15:07:59 +0000

WHy would you be vain because you don't want to "settle"? Nobody wants to "settle" for someone they don't like or thats not their type. I dont think you are being vain. But, if you set your standards too high, you are right, they will probably be spoken for.
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By: j3nnaxjanky

j3nnaxjanky — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 15:02:59 +0000

You sound like a douche bag to me.
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