My eleven year old son went on a court ordered christmas vacation with his father into another state. (La) His father not for the first time has called Social Services claiming that I abuse our child and is now refuseing to return our son. This isn’t the first time he has done this but the kids and I just moved to another county and this county isn’t used to the father’s repeated false claims and is allowing the father to keep the child in another state where our son is not in school (can’t be put in due to his living here) is not being givin his asthma inhalers (his father don’t believe that he is asthmatic, our son also has a slight curve in his spine that when in a growth srurt can worsen and we are supposed to get him to Dr. if anything looks or sounds wrong and my son is saying that it feels like a pinched nerve in his back (again father believes nothing wrong) and won’t get it checked out. I have tried to talk to the social worker assigned to the case and to me it seems like he’s on a power trip and won’t even take my calls or call me back. I finally called his supervisor and so he was made to call me back and all he would say was that just because the father told me he wasn’t going to take him to the Dr. that didn’t mean it was true and I needed to stay out of it. I may not be a perfect mother but I DON’T abuse my children!!!! I have been a Girl Scout leader, a Boy Scout leader, a soccer coach, a flag football assistance coach, the community vice president for the Marshfield JayCees, I volunteer at my childrens schools, I am the only one to ever go to any of my son’s parent teacher confrences, my eleven year old is my youngest child, I also have an 16 yr. old and a 21 yr. old. Even my daughter and other son have said that none of it’s true, but with this social worker I feel like no matter what I do or say or have done in the past for all my kids it will never be good enough. Any helpful non smart alec answers would be gratefully appreciated. My children are my life. And the father does this type of thing when he is told no by me , this time it’s because I won’t let him claim our son every year on taxes and I won’t let him have our son every x-mas instead of every other year as was ordered.
Our son is very broken up about this whole thing, our son and I are very close and he wants to come home, his father tells him bad things about me and it hurts him to no end. Our son loves his father very much and I do encourage the relationship with his father, but it’s getting harder to do that and this time he even convinced our son to lie to authorities in his quest to keep him and our son now feels even more horrible knowing that he did it and no one will listen to him tell the truth. Not to mention the father has only allowed our child and I to talk only twice since this all started and my son and I talk every day when he is gone. This is doing major damage to all of us, but especially our son. I have tried talking to the father but he won’t give.
HIRE A LAWYER NOW!!!!!!! I know how them people work. I went through that whole thing with my daughters dad and he kept her from me for 2 months and I finally got tired of it all and hired a lawyer a very good lawyer and he took my court papers that i had from going to court with my daughters dad showing that I had custody and they were not allowed to keep my daughter away from me without proving it. They are not allowed to keep your child for more then 24 hours if they can’t prove you are unfit. I would hire a lawyer right now… And if you have custody of your son, you can call the police and make a kidnapping charges against your son’s father. I should know, I have went through this problem with my daughter. And it happen once and only once. He tried to pull it again a few times but he always lost because I had hired a lawyer the first time and had proven I was a fit mother.
February 16th, 2010 at 3:40 am
Get all the paperwork together from the previous cases and take it to the social services.
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February 16th, 2010 at 4:19 am
I’m so sorry you’re going through this ! It’s so messed up! You’re not alone though. The father of my child is like this also, although we haven’t had social services get involved I know every visit were a step closer…My ex just got remarried (after only seeing our son 5 times in 2 years) now he wants to play house with my son and the new wife just eats it up…..I hope all of this works out for you and you can Email me if you want to vent
Good Luck !
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February 16th, 2010 at 5:06 am
I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better but this is such a complicated situation and I can only imagine the strife its putting you through. You should get your son’s medical records together that proves he has asthma and a spinal condition and present this to social services. This will also prove that he’s not getting the medical attention he needs. As a matter of fact, see if you can get a new caseworker assigned to your case because the one you have right now is very incompetent. I wish you the best.
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February 16th, 2010 at 5:40 am
There has got to be a way to talk the father into letting you have the child, to drop the accusations. Maybe sort through the paperwork to find something against the father. Even if you have to lie to get your baby back, its better than either of you suffering. How does he feel about all of this?
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February 16th, 2010 at 6:06 am
HIRE A LAWYER NOW!!!!!!! I know how them people work. I went through that whole thing with my daughters dad and he kept her from me for 2 months and I finally got tired of it all and hired a lawyer a very good lawyer and he took my court papers that i had from going to court with my daughters dad showing that I had custody and they were not allowed to keep my daughter away from me without proving it. They are not allowed to keep your child for more then 24 hours if they can’t prove you are unfit. I would hire a lawyer right now… And if you have custody of your son, you can call the police and make a kidnapping charges against your son’s father. I should know, I have went through this problem with my daughter. And it happen once and only once. He tried to pull it again a few times but he always lost because I had hired a lawyer the first time and had proven I was a fit mother.
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